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Being Tough is Cool | Bonafide Urban Chick

1. Being Tough is Cool: Be what you are, if you are a girlie girl, then good, but if you are a toughie, then be proud of it. Because who you are will be who you are. Nonetheless, there is a little bit of ass kicking that every girl should manage! Learn some self-defense, so that you don't need a knight in shining armour. Because, girl, it is time the princess learns to save herself! Which brings us to the next point!

Looks are Important But Not Essential | Bonafide Urban Chick

2. Looks are Important But Not Essential: A little bit of expert work, and effort can make anyone look attractive. But what defines you is what dwells in your mind and heart. You're skills, your abilities and what you do for society is what defines you!

Girl Time is Important | Bonafide Urban Chick

3. Girl Time is Important: While it is important to work hard, focus on your studies and focus on your career, some pizza and dancing with your girls is something that helps open your heart and mind. It liberates you, makes you realize (if  you have forgotten) that you truly are amazing and a "total queen"!

Food is Good | Bonafide Urban Chick

4. Food is Good: Yes, being thin and having a sexy figure is important. I mean, we would all want to fit in the model size clothes, right? But, food is good girls! Eat well, eat right and eat what you love! And if you love the butters, creams and cakes, then also add exercise to your regimen! Simple!

Sometimes the Best Partner in Life is a Friend | Bonafide Urban Chick

5. Sometimes the Best Partner in Life is a Friend: Love is overrated darling. Yes, it is lovely to have someone to love you, pamper you and care for you. But who the heck said that it has to be a man? If you get a man to do this without compromising on your identity, then great. Otherwise that amazing friend who is always there for you, is a good partner too! Love is love because it simple is... love doesn't demand change!

Look sweetheart... you are amazing, and Grace Hart is like you, in some way or another. Love yourself, be yourself and have the guts to stand up for yourself! Through all that, I am with you! 

Now, I can safely and proudly say that I am probably the least materialistic person I know. Money doesn't give me joy, clothes and accessories don't define my persona and I do not judge others by these parameters either. Yes, I am one of a kind!

The other day, while I was at my nephew's birthday bash, I saw how important all the gifts were to him. He refused to let anyone else open them, he refused to let his sister touch them, and most importantly, pulled a Dudley (reacted with a tantrum) when he saw that his dad got him something other than what he had demanded.

Let me bring it to your attention that this kid is only 10 years old.

This made me think. Have these customs paved the way for our (I do not include myself in this) materialistic ways? Does the act of compulsorily giving a gift to your child make them materialistic and shallow?

Re-tracking to my childhood days, my parents refused to buy us material gifts on our birthdays. Infact, my father once told me "Why does it have to be given on your birthday? When you will need it, you will have it. Even if it is not your birthday." Even when we asked our parents what gifts they wanted, my mother's favorite demand was "I don't want anything, I just want you to be a good girl, and be the best you can be." Needless to say, I sincerely tried for a few days, and then conveniently forgot about it.

Nonetheless, this act ingrained in us the virtue of gifts being sentimental in nature, and not materialistic. WE also always trusted our parents to give us what we NEEDED, as opposed to what we just WANTED. Parents who chose to gift their children things that "all their friends have" are not only making their children materialistic, but also paving the way for a peer pressured way of life.

Are birthdays and occassions all about gifts? Is BUYING someone something expensive (subjectively used term) the way to show how much they mean to you? Can a cup of lovingly made tea or coffee, a hug and an I love you be enough to show someone just how much you mean to them? Do you judge someones character on the basis of how they gift?

Think back and calculate how much money you wasted buying stupid, but in-demand and expensive gifts, when you could have more lovingly shown your feelings for your loved one. May be, we need a change, yes?

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A few days back, I read a tweet that informed me that all feotus are infact female. It is a little later that the Y chromosome kicks in for the male child. This is the primary reason why even men have nipples, despite the fact that they have no need for it at all!

On giving further thought to this simple fact, it is simple. Girls come first. Now, extending this fact to a general state, females are the default gender of the feotus. Hence, it is simple, women came first, then men.

Now, coming to simple spirituality beliefs of the start of the world, it is believed that God first made man, right? However, God and science cannot differ at such a basic level. As the story goes, first Adam was created, then from his rib was Eve created.

These 2 and 2 put together lead to the conclusion that all spiritual books are slightly mistaken. Which is fine, considering that, essentially, they are all human beings and allowed to err.

Here is my theory, bringing a merger between science and spirituality and adding a dash of evolution.
"God First created Eve (the female). Then he added another rib (Y chromosome) and was Adam created." Simply stated, the reason why men are considered to mature after women (proven by psychologists) is because they develop after women. Or rather, start pre-birth development after women!

I know that this fact will be very difficult for people to accept. However, being ahead of my time, I am used to this. Nonetheless, feel free to let people know about this, and disagree with it as well!

Cheers!

I am back! The blog post regularity rate seems to have accelerated. I guess it is a recurring pattern that needs to be studied. But, as of now, we shall not be bothered by it. Why? Because, today, as I was doing my weekly kitchen cleaning another idea struck my mind! If I do not share it, I will lose it. And boy, will that be a great loss!

What am I? Am I a messiah or a dictator? Now, I know most of you may think that I think too much of myself. Well, I do! What you think about it really doesn't matter to me! So, yes, coming back to the question, am I a messiah or a dictator? I have a tendency to always think differently from others. My thoughts are mostly either considered outrageous, far-fetched or point-blank stupid. Also, I have seemed to have caused crazy upheavals in people's lives.


This question is asked keeping a particular example set in mind. Jesus and Hitler. Why have I selected these two? Well, let's see:

• Firstly: Both of them came at a time when people were comfortable in their lives. Some were more comfortable, some less. But, basically people were getting by.
• Secondly: Both created massive upheavals in the world. One came as the son of God, and one came as a leader. Both caused a series of changes in people's behavior and belief systems.
• Thirdly: Neither of them seemed physically intimidating. While Jesus had a very soft and loving "my child" demeanor, Hitler was a shorty with a Charlie Chaplin mustache. Let's face it, sans his popularity, if he met me on the road, I may just slap him for kicks!
• Forthly: Neither of them had unanimous following, Both of them were loved by some, hated by some and some simply didn't bother to care. Still, their words, thoughts and actions have changed the way the world functions.
• Lastly: They both truly believed that what they were doing is right, and stood by it no matter what. The legacy of both is still a mystery and that is what upholds their substance till date. 

Oooh, one more, both have books to their credit. One is a religious best seller (The Bible) and the other is a philosophical gold mine (Mein Kamph).

So there, they both have a lot in common. So what sets them apart? One's actions were ruled by His patience, love and tolerance. He died to show that he will never bow down to hate. The other's actions were ruled by his lust for power and his hate for a certain clan of people. He always showed that he will never bow down. Period.

While Sorting, Harry Potter was told that he could be great in Slytherin as well as Griffindor. What made the difference was the choice he made.

"We are not defined by what we can do, but by that which we CHOOSE to do!" Going by this golden rule, I choose to be The Messiah!

Think about it, it will be fun!

In a time when psychological situations (I choose not to call them problems) can be well understood and defined, I have come to find one particular condition quite common. In spite of the fact that technology is at its peak, nothing is impossible for mankind any more, the concept of Mentality Retardation is becoming glaringly common. It is not a condition a person is born with, it is not caused due to physical damage to the body.



What is Mentality Retardation?
Mentality Retardation can simply be explained as a condition that causes a person to think regressively all the time. They will always compare "what is" to "what was". They do not do this for feeling better about themselves (which could be popular belief). They do this to continue telling themselves that "the time is gone". They choose to believe that "what was" is the only way thing "should" be.

Types Of Mentality Retardation
Mentality Retardation, like any other retardation is three types.

1. Zero Mentality Retardation: This type is for those who choose to be in the time which they physically live in. For example, in the year 2012, their thoughts with regress back only till 2011. Beyond that will be considered as time gone by. They will look back at it as nostalgia, to learn from mistakes and for light conversations. This type is not unhealthy and commonly found.
Treatment
Not needed.

2. Mild Mentality Retardation: This type is for those who choose to regress back to a limited period of time, and for limited reasons. For example, in the year 2012, their thoughts will go back to any time that brings back good memories. These people prefer to live in past glories. Their development will stunt due to this, and depression and frustration can be caused as well.
Treatment
This type is a little unhealthy. But with regular motivation and counselling, it can be cured quite easily.

3. Major Mentality Retardation: This is a very dangerous type. It is quite common as well. In this type, the person chooses to regress back in any time that is opposing the current time in a specific field. For example, in 2012, in the case of pollution, they will regress back to 1987, in the case of corruption, they will regress back to 1947 etc. A person suffering from major mentality retardation doesn't necessarily regress back to their own memories, but to anything they may have read, heard about or seen in movies. They always believe that the other is better than what they have. This type can cause major mood swings, relationship problems, depression and a general inefficiency in endeavors. They will mostly choose to look the other way from happiness.
Treatment
Treating this kind of a mentality retardation can be quite difficult. The person has strong psychological defenses and denials. More so, the slightest argument in favor of the retardation, in any way will regress the treatment further. The only way to treat this condition is to take the person out of their comfort zone, expose them to a world that is either mild mentality retardation driven or zero mentality retardation driven and then have them interact with people in a fairly controlled environment.

While not much research has been done on the subject, the cause for mentality retardation can be assumed to be a serious blow to the person's EQ (emotional quotient). Mild and major mentality retardation could be caused due to a person either having the need to regress in order to feel good (mild mentality retardation), or in order to scratch the itch about having something to complain and feel bad about (major mentality retardation).

Negative Mentality Retardation is also a type. This is the kind that has the person think and look ahead of their time. While most people "suffering" from this condition are seldom valued in their time, the contributions they make to humanity, make a big difference.

While much research has not been done on the subject, (I am fairly certain that I am the first to think about it, or at least the first to put it clearly in words), the research will continue.

Hopefully, we will all get to live in a world of negative and zero mentality retardation. Where people believe in moving ahead, only looking back at good memories momentarily!